According to the Pennsylvania Department of Health, nearly 30,000 Pennsylvanians got a divorce or annulment in 2020. Of those separations, many navigated the complexities of child custody arrangements. For some folks, the idea of splitting their children’s time between two parents seemed untenable. However, after giving it a shot, many people learned to appreciate the advantages of joint custody.
Types of joint custody
Joint child custody is not a one-size-fits-all proposition. Every family is different, and which method is best will depend on your specific dynamics.
• Kids switch: In some child custody setups, the children switch between parental homes.
• Parent switch: Increasingly, co-parents choose to let their children stay in one home all the time, and the adults switch in and out of the house.
• Block schedules: In these situations, children stay with each parent for prolonged periods instead of switching living arrangements every few days or weeks.
Advantages of joint custody
A lot of people discover that joint custody is a blessing. While there are a few drawbacks, the benefits often outweigh them.
Dating is easier
A lot of people start dating after divorce. With free days to yourself, it’s a lot easier.
More revive time
On days that the children are with your ex, there’s time to take care of yourself. Many people come to cherish their alone days and use them to revive — which is ultimately great for the kids. After all, they get refreshed parents who are more engaged.
Spending time with both parents is psychologically ideal for children. It cushions the impact of divorce and models commendable behavior. Plus, they benefit from absorbing the good lessons that both parents must teach.
Incidental costs constantly pop up. In joint custody situations, both parents can share the burden.
Divorce can be difficult. But if everyone involved approaches the situation with maturity and respect, it can be a win-win for all involved.