Parenting challenges often arise even after the most amicable of divorces. Parents in Pennsylvania who are dealing with a toxic ex-spouse may feel like the challenges they are facing cannot be overcome. Here are a few tips to help individuals who have a toxic ex-spouse.
In order to be a good parent, there are times when learning to put up with a toxic ex-spouse is necessary. However, this does not mean that every interaction has to be extremely stressful. A steady temperament and resolved composure can go a long way in helping a person to maintain their commitment to great parenting.
Many have found that co-parenting with a toxic ex-spouse is simply about not engaging. A person has the right and the power to decide when and how they will engage with their ex. If the ex-spouse says or does something that immediately causes the co-parent to get angry, the last thing they want to do is engage with the ex-spouse. It's better to react by talking about the situation with a close friend. They can respond after they have thought about the situation and feel calm.
It is good to respond to emergencies immediately. However, having a delay time for responding to anything else is usually wise. A co-parent is not on call for their ex-spouse. In some cases, they do not even need to respond, unless it has something to do with parenting the children.
Despite a person's best efforts, marital discord and a toxic personality can make it impossible to co-parent. In this situation, a person may wish to speak with an attorney. An attorney may be able to provide information about divorce, child custody, child support, and other matters that arise at the end of a marriage. An attorney might be able to help a person file paperwork or even represent their client in court.